I don't think a lot of people realize where I have come from regarding my relationships. A lot of people get impatient and wonder why they are single, blah, blah blah. Some people may look at me and think I have never struggled or been lonely, but those closest to me know otherwise. All through college I didn't have a boyfriend. I went on dates, but nothing ever stuck. I went to a college where it almost seemed as though getting your MRS degree (mrs... get it?) was more important than getting your education. I was able to escape without one.
After college, everyone was getting married and I was single. Looking back on it, it was stupid to be worried about getting married at 23. I am almost 30 and I think of how much I have grown as a person and changed. I am glad I got married later. I was pursued heavily by a guy that I thought would be a good fit, but I was wrong. I was 23 and thought he was a nice guy.. he wasn't. I won't get into details, but by the end of the relationship, I was pretty sure I would never date again. I did date again. All of them weren't looking for anything serious or I just wasn't into them. I didn't have another serious relationship until nearly 4 years later when I met Chris.
During my time of singleness, I focused on spending time with my family, friends, and most importantly, God. I began to understand that I didn't have to be married by 23 or even 25. I spent that time praying for who God wanted for me, not who I wanted, because I obviously couldn't pick a good mate. Did I get lonely? Yes. Did I want to give up? YES! And I almost did.
I had been on dating sites off and on since the guy from college. I was a Governess (teacher/nanny) for a family and traveled a lot. One day while I was in Florida and I was sitting in my apartment there, I decided that I was done dating and decided to take off my dating profiles from the websites I was on. I logged on to my account on one site and noticed I had an email. I couldn't decide whether to just delete my account without checking the email, or check the email. I was sure it was another 40 year old with 3 kids and weighed 500 pounds (I'm kidding... partly). To my surprise, it was from a guy my age who had just moved to Lynchburg from Dayton. He had a nice smile and wait.... he looked kind of like Justin Timberlake (he gets it all the time he said on our first date) . I decided to meet up with him when I got back from Florida, which would be another 2 weeks, but he said he didn't mind. When I got back from Florida, I met up with him at Bdub's for lunch and then we went to a movie. Guess who was in the movie? Justin Timberlake.
After a few dates and even meeting my parents the second time we hung out, I knew that Chris was going to turn into something good. A little over a year after our first date, we celebrated his birthday by recreating our first date and that birthday ended up being the day that I said yes to becoming his wife.
I guess where I am going with this is that if you are single, who cares? Spend your time wisely- spend time with your friends, family and most importantly, God. Have fun. Prepare yourself for who you want your future spouse to be with. Spend time praying for them. Yes, you can pray for someone you've never met before. I kept a journal when I was single during college and after that I wrote notes and prayers to my future husband. Life has so much to offer. Stop and smell the roses and then one day when God thinks you're ready, he'll send someone to smell the roses with you.
After college, everyone was getting married and I was single. Looking back on it, it was stupid to be worried about getting married at 23. I am almost 30 and I think of how much I have grown as a person and changed. I am glad I got married later. I was pursued heavily by a guy that I thought would be a good fit, but I was wrong. I was 23 and thought he was a nice guy.. he wasn't. I won't get into details, but by the end of the relationship, I was pretty sure I would never date again. I did date again. All of them weren't looking for anything serious or I just wasn't into them. I didn't have another serious relationship until nearly 4 years later when I met Chris.
During my time of singleness, I focused on spending time with my family, friends, and most importantly, God. I began to understand that I didn't have to be married by 23 or even 25. I spent that time praying for who God wanted for me, not who I wanted, because I obviously couldn't pick a good mate. Did I get lonely? Yes. Did I want to give up? YES! And I almost did.
I had been on dating sites off and on since the guy from college. I was a Governess (teacher/nanny) for a family and traveled a lot. One day while I was in Florida and I was sitting in my apartment there, I decided that I was done dating and decided to take off my dating profiles from the websites I was on. I logged on to my account on one site and noticed I had an email. I couldn't decide whether to just delete my account without checking the email, or check the email. I was sure it was another 40 year old with 3 kids and weighed 500 pounds (I'm kidding... partly). To my surprise, it was from a guy my age who had just moved to Lynchburg from Dayton. He had a nice smile and wait.... he looked kind of like Justin Timberlake (he gets it all the time he said on our first date) . I decided to meet up with him when I got back from Florida, which would be another 2 weeks, but he said he didn't mind. When I got back from Florida, I met up with him at Bdub's for lunch and then we went to a movie. Guess who was in the movie? Justin Timberlake.
After a few dates and even meeting my parents the second time we hung out, I knew that Chris was going to turn into something good. A little over a year after our first date, we celebrated his birthday by recreating our first date and that birthday ended up being the day that I said yes to becoming his wife.
I guess where I am going with this is that if you are single, who cares? Spend your time wisely- spend time with your friends, family and most importantly, God. Have fun. Prepare yourself for who you want your future spouse to be with. Spend time praying for them. Yes, you can pray for someone you've never met before. I kept a journal when I was single during college and after that I wrote notes and prayers to my future husband. Life has so much to offer. Stop and smell the roses and then one day when God thinks you're ready, he'll send someone to smell the roses with you.
